December 15, 2006



I confess, I have leapt in the deep end of the pink swimming pool. Since finding out I was pregnant with a girl (like you 7 w.o. girl after a boy) I have been strangely attracted to various shades of pink. Not just lovely dusky roses and blossom piny-whites and vibrant fuschias, but even full bubblegum pinks. I blame the hormones.
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How about some little a-line pinafores? They just pop over the head - no fastenings required, and you can jazz them up with applique pockets etc. I made loads of these when my daughter was a baby and she wore them over her brother's old jeans, and was most definitely "a girl"! They are great in supersoft "babycord".

red swirl

My feelings about pink are similar ... I rarely wear it myself as I hate the gender tag that comes with it.

As far as my 18-month old goes, I've given up. She has some pink clothes, so her great-grandparents can't accuse me of never letting her wear pink.

But people still can't work out her gender, even when she's all in pink!!!

Perhaps this is because, in Newtown, I've met a number of boy babies wearing all pink (hand-me-downs) ;)


Pia's outfits are gorgeous! She always looks cute, stylish and feminine (I think). I wish there was more of that kind of stuff in the shops - I was looking for a present for a friend's new baby girl today, and it's so hard to find something that's not pink and purple and totally frou-frou.


I so agree. I was reprimanded by a stranger yesterday for not dressing my baby girl in pink. And I can remember the shock I felt at opening another congratulatory card when she was born and finding it was an insipid pink colour. My mother lives in France, and there you can find good pinks - and lots of girl clothes in other colours - but here in the UK they are mostly revolting, palid, muddy colours. Eventually you find out where the good clothes are, and you avoid the cutsey horrors.

Sharon G.

Girl, you can dress that child like some sort of pink confection and people will STILL say, "Aww, he's so handsome." Trust me. Our little girl had barely any pink in her wardrobe. When we did put her in one of her over-the-top-pukey-pink outfits, people still thought that she was a little boy. Mind you, mine had a full head of dark, curly hair, too.

We didn't use bows or ribbons, either. They're babies, not holiday gifts, you know?


My 2 year old daughter has a pair of pink cordory overalls that I love. When she wears them she still gets called a boy. She's still lacking in the hair department so I think that may have something to do with it. But pink or not I still hear "he's so cute!"


Lola's first holiday season was just post 9/11 and so when we traveled to see our families that year we encontered lots and lots of lines. While waiting in a particularly long one Lola had a blow-out diaper. Straw drawing commenced and Papa got the short one. I stayed in line while he took her to the bathroom to clean her up. We were in an older terminal of an older airport and he got to the men's room to find no changing table. Rather than using the particularly fetid floor, he perched her across a sink (don't ask me as I'm still not quite sure how he made it work). Anyway, there was Lola with her onesie pushed up to her arm pits and naked from the waist down for all the world to see. The gentleman at the sink next to Dan's glanced over and said, "What a cute little fella." Dan was about to correct him when he said, "Oh, I'm sorry. It's a she. I could tell from her barrette." Even when people are presented with unmistakeable evidence, they will still call a girl a boy, pink or no.


We told the whole family "no pink" and yet, we still get gobs of pink from everyone. I don't like sugary pinks. I don't like dusty mauve either and we keep getting gobs of it. Yesterday we recieved a mauve dress that had a sugary pink tights and a sugary pink sweater to go with it. Plus, a pair of jeans that have denim ruffles all over the place and denim bows AND pink ribbon bows. ugh.


I feel your pain.

I hated (hated, I tell you!) pink...then along came child number four, and lo and behold, she was a girl. After three boys, I was fairly convinced that I was genetically incapable of bearing girls.

Anyhow, not only do I dress her in pink, I even wear it myself. Yikes. I swear I don't even recognize myself some days.

PS She's now two, and her 4-yr-old brother still calls her "he."

PPS People say I've gone crazy w/a girl and bought her tons of clothes when she is wearing hand-me-down-four-times navy hoodies, jeans, and brown boots. Go figure.


hear hear :-D

All we ever got was babypink clothes, and even a bonnet in broderie anglaise.

She never wore any of it (just the one saying (in pink): "before you ask - I am a girl!" :-)), but she looks great in purple and a a-line dress, making fewer people ask for the gender ;-)


oh pink... i don't have kids myself but rough memories of pink from when i was a kid. my mom was really into pink and frills and i responded by wearing what she considers the worst colors possible... dark green, gray, brown!
i wonder how much the perceptions of others really impact a baby's gender identity... again this is coming from a place of child-ignorance, but at what point does the baby start to think of him/herself as a boy/girl? i have a friend with 2 boys who insisted on "gender-neutral" colors... yellow, green... and her boys are boy-boys, with trucks and trains and all the rest of it. if pia is thought of as a boy (and it seems from the rest of the comments that pink is no assurance :) ), at what point would that be a "problem" for her?
at the same time, as a baby-gift buyer and maker, i sympathize with the lack of good baby stuff out there.


When my daugther was a baby we were out of town and out for dinner she was dressed from head to toe in pink (i don't have the pink aversion) and she was about 3 months old with lots of hair ... i took her outside for a little walk to calm her and two older ladies out ther called her a boy!!! I was shocked! she's in pink!!! For some reason people just seem to associate babys and boys!

mamaloo, the doula

I too have a veritable allergic reaction to the bastion of pink and purple goo for girls. It freaks me out. When Kieran turned out to be a boy I was ultimately relieved to not have to deal with the whole Pinka nd purple thing.

Of course, I still had to deal with the trucks and sports gear all over everything problem. While it's easier to get simple clothes for boys, it is still a pain in the butt!

If Shrimpie turns out to be a girl (and we won't discover that until s/he's on my chest post birth) I'll be reusing lots of my son's clothes with a few girly things thrown in on occaision.

Frankly, at least the pants they make for boys have more butt room and go down all the way to the foot and aren't all flared!

I recommend lots of pyjama style pants that can be made from a basic pattern in a variety of colours and fabrics appropriate to the weather. Pia's clothes will be way cooler than all the other little kids!


Frankly, I think it's the hair that is the main cue. My niece and my daughter are 7 months apart. The niece (Valerie) was nearly bald until she was about 9 months old, and LaLa has pretty much always had hair. Valerie was always dressed in "girl clothes" and even so was mistaken for a boy, even with pierced ears. LaLa, not much pink at all, aqua, purple, green, grey, and she was rarely mistaken for a boy. The cotton candy PINK was overwhelming to me when I was shopping for baby clothes too.

I vote for pink hats, headbands or hair prettys to make the most impact - I very much like the things Pia's been wearing.


Im sure Pia looks cute in everything! I had to give a little ground on the Pink war, exactly how many pink gifts can one resell\exchange? but mostly its brown and teal or green which I dont think look masculine at all, but everyone else..I really believe that people just dont look very closely at babies-Im told all the time what a cute boy she is, and she will be 1 in two weeks! I hope that Pia gets some hair soon so you dont have to have the same annoyance!


Lots of folks assume Thumper is a girl. Maybe because of the long lashes and full lips? Dunno. I'm not terribly concerned. I'd offer to send over a big box of un-frou frou girl clothes from here, but from what I see on the girl babies around me (and EVERYONE has had a girl this year except us), the pickins are slim here too.

I LOVE Pia's pants, and when I first saw that toast top on Mariko's site I, if I recall correctlym squealed out loud.


I am having similar issues about the baby's room. We haven't found out the gender, so I was trying to make everything neutral, but I was not interested in the pale greens and pale yellows which is all you seem to be able to find when you don't know the sex. So I decided to go with my favorite colors, bright oranges, reds, and yellows which I figured would be good for either sex...but now that the nursery is almost done, it looks SO boyish to me. And there is nothing inherently boyish about it, it's just that there's nothing pink or frilly in there, so it doesn't look girly. And I don't *like* pink and frilly, so I wouldn't want that stuff in there anyway, but now I am worried that if it's a girl that a yellow and red and orange room is somehow inappropriate...I am not a huge fan of pastels, I like strong, bold colors, but primary colors just seem boyish to me all of a sudden. I am hoping when I get the bedding (which is mostly white) it will soften the room a little bit...stupid society influencing me with their conventions!


Oh yes, I've been there. I have three daughters. Just wait until SHE WANTS to wear pink. I swore it would never happen in my family. But daughter #2? Yup, it's HER color. She may have won the battle there, but there will never, ever, ever, be a Barbie, Disney princess or Bratz girl in my house. That is where I draw the line.


Both my girl babies have been mistaken for boys while wearing head-to-toe pink with lace trim. Please don't waste money on clothes just for gender id purposes! A quick pronoun insertion - "Thanks, we really enjoy HER" is usually enough to set people on the right track.
Pia's clothes are just beautiful. Thanks for sharing the pictures.


I love pink, but I think it's because I have more options than poor Pia, who is faced only with pink until she becomes a teenager or so! Have fun in your quest for non-pink clothes. I wish you great success (and toast)!


It won't matter. It's the hair. If you have a girl, dressed all in pink, or all in flowers, or any other girly attire, but she has little to no hair and you don't stick a goofy bow or one of those hideous headbands on her, she's going to be called a boy. No matter what.

I just ignore it. "How old is he?" "SHE is X months."


Man, that is one sweet baby! I love it when you post photos of her. Good luck finding pretty non-pink clothing.


pia's perfect as is and so are her clothes! she's off to a great start to being her own individual. :-) sounds corny but i think it's true.


yeah, but even pink and frou doesn't prompt a what a cute girl response in my experience. It's true I almost never let Amy near pink whilst she was young enough not to have an opinion (up to about 2), but even when I conducted experiements and took her out in a DRESS (hello?) that was PINK and with various girly accessories, everyone (and I mean down to the very last stranger) called her a boy. In the end I just assumed it was lack of hair that gave them the boy thing impression. Maybe it was some kind of weird vibe thing I gave off, though I can't quite imagine how that would work, but it was tryly freaky how everyone just thought boy. Dying to see new clothes though!

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