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June 16, 2006

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countingmermaids

I'm so, so sorry. I wish that there was something that I could do or something more that I could say.

I do know a wonderful councillor here in Sydney, if you do need someone outside of your family and friends to talk to.

caitlyn

I am so very sorry that you are experiencing such pain and difficulty. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope that you will find the strength to make it through each day, one breath at a time. Take care.

Strikkelise

Oh, I hope you find some relief and comfort. It's hard work bringing children to the world. Those who think otherwise have no idea.
I don't know if you have tried specialized training in a heated swimming pool (I mean, like 34 degrees Celsius)? I had that during my second pregnancy and whish I'd had it during my first, too. Just floating in a warm pool takes a lot of SPD pressure off and is a wonderful relief.
Good luck.

Jill

Thinking of you. I'm glad there are still small things in life that give you joy - like little piles - I love your piles :)

Ali

It's a vunerable time, even without the added complication of SPD. I had the same feelings of envy at the blind optimism of first time mothers. I hope you can find the support you need.

I think one of the main second-time-around advantages is the knowledge that 'this too shall pass'. Keep piling.

gail

Girlfriend and fellow mother, I'm feeling for ya.

Kirsty

I have sent you an email, hope you don't mind.

M-H

Dear Alison, I had this pain with my second pregnancy. I'm sorry you're having to go through it. One day at a time... If you need a recommendation for a good osteopath contact me.

myra

Alison, I'm so sorry about all the pain you are going through with this pregnancy. I can't imagine how hard that must be. Take care.

sandra in Belgium

So sorry for you... Hope you can find the relief and comfort you need. I send good vibes. Take care!

filambulle

Dear Alison,
It is so frustrating to be so far away from you now. I cannot hold your hand, but I send you my best wishes for the next months. I think of you daily, sending you all best thoughts I can. Hopefully it helps.
(I will write you an email about my VBAC experience)
xoxo
Manuèle

Mary

Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time. While I don't know your individual circumstances I had a postive experience with VBAC for my second child and was glad that I stuck to my guns.

Julie

Oiy, I wish I could help you and take some of this pain away. You WILL get through it and everything will be ok! You need lots of hugs and some good movies to watch to take your mind off things for a while. Also some good music!! Im sending you positive and loving vibes from here. Take care xxx

JulieFrick

Bring on the piles, love. I don't know if this will be helpful or infuriating, but you make such beautiful things, and those beautiful things don't come easily. You are more than fully entitled to do it your way and to feel what you feel in the process. Thinking of you.

jennifer

you'll do what you do. i am amazed with all that you have on your plate right now - and add to that your constant pain, you are a wonder.
my dear friend (who recommended the midwife who helped me deliver my twins) has had two successful VBACs (with said midwife). an OB was present, as was during my births. i would say that having a midwife and an OB who have a good working relationship was key to successful births in our cases. she knew he would defer to her and she also knew when his assistance was needed. that they appreciated one another's roles was elemental.
that being said: you'll do what you do, so try not to fret. best wishes to you!!!!!!!!

p.s. and here all these years i thought curt smith was smitten with me... many a brooding teenage afternoon were spent eyes closed chiming in with tears for fears. i can still hear the opening to "change" - so great.

Kate

From one pregant 5-months along to another...hang in there. You are surrounded by great people, great family.

Kelli

This is such a refreshingly honest post, though I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I'll keep you in my thoughts. I think you are right -- soon you'll see that beautiful baby girl, wearing clothes you've made her, playing with her sweet older brother, and you'll know that the pain and stress were worth while. Until then, I am sending you peaceful wishes.

eireann

oh, Alison, here is a squeeze for you. A gentle one. Thank you for such directness.

I love "Mad World," too, although it reminds me of an exboyfriend.

Heels

My heart breaks for you.

Fifteen weeks is an agonizingly long time. I knew I was fully miserable in my pregnancy when I realized I was anticipating with an almost desperate glee the regular tiredness that comes with having a newborn baby because then, I would think, then I will be able to sleep when the baby sleeps, sometimes.

Be well and feel well and take care of yourself however you can.

victoria

your post brought back memories! I couldn't stand being pregnant and I was constantly uncomfortable and with the 3rd I had placenta previa and had to sit on the couch for 2 months. All I can say is that this will not last forever--there is an end to it and you need to focus on getting through each moment not focus on the months. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break and allow yourself a cry or a nap or reprieve from finishing a project. Do only the things that please you. It's hard enough to be pregnant but doubly hard to be pregnant with a toddler running around. You're strong--you can do this.

victoria

your post brought back memories! I couldn't stand being pregnant and I was constantly uncomfortable and with the 3rd I had placenta previa and had to sit on the couch for 2 months. All I can say is that this will not last forever--there is an end to it and you need to focus on getting through each moment not focus on the months. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break and allow yourself a cry or a nap or reprieve from finishing a project. Do only the things that please you. It's hard enough to be pregnant but doubly hard to be pregnant with a toddler running around. You're strong--you can do this.

Amelie

Your post started so nicely with music and memories, which I could really relate to -- and they you wrote about your physical and emotional pain, and I felt so sorry for you! I don't have children yet and still live with the naive thought that pregnancy is a wonderful time... Of course I have heard of some of the potential problems, but it's very different to hear such an honest personal story.
I hope you will find support and relief soon. Take care!

Nanimal

My 2nd pregnancy was in no way as hard as this sounds... but I did go ahead with a VBAC even though all the Docs just were like "well, if you INSIST". It worked out perfect. but it is so so hard to make these decisions within so much uncertainty - but with it all you know yourself - at least it seems like you do through these posts have a pretty good idea of yourself... :) follow your gut and your heart. I think so many times we push it aside when listening to "experts". blah blah blah _ I am so not trying to just rattle on more stuff to you when YOu have a bunch going on. I am sending you my best wishes and enjoy your piles. I keep coming back for more.

stay strong.

vegasandvenice

Worn out places, worn out faces ...

This was the theme song for my most difficult bout with depression. It was all that I wanted to listen to and my husband even learned to play it on the piano for me. It was so easy to take the song straight to heart. I sympathize, we have struggles that are extremely similar but will always differ as we do. So while I can not say that I understand what you are going through, I appreciate where you are.

I am just another face in the crowd of your supporters, but I am here and anything that I can do to help bring even the smallest and most temporary smile to your face I would happily do. You are in my thoughts.

tulip

Oh honey honey, I'm sorry you are in such pain. I wish there was something else we (in your internet community) could do for you. I for one am continually amazed at the inspiration you continue to bring to me and my art even while you are dealing with such difficulty.
I know exactly what you mean about songs being such a part of memory and who you are.
I'll continue to send my good vibes and love out to you and yours. :)

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